Of all the times of my life, I most enjoy family time. When I can get away from my 9 to 5 and just be me. When I can relax and enjoy my husband and three little boys. We always have endless fun.
We might decide to play games or with their toys. We might go on a picnic or to an Amusement Park. Whatever we decide, its just great being together.
This particular day we are in the Park and the two oldest boys are romping. The baby is just learning how to walk, so my husband and I are helping him with that. Of course my two oldest need more space to play than our little cramped apartment, so they are very, very happy.
This is just what our family needs. That’s why there’s nothing better than family time.
My sister, who is single and childless, feels sorry for me. She is focused on her career and has no intentions of settling down or having a family. I tell her, “girl, you don’t know what you are missing! Just wait until you meet Mr. Right. ‘Cause once you do, its going to be on like neckbones”. She just laughs and says, “no thank you”, she is happy just the way she is. No need for any major changes in her life. But “whatever floats my boat is fine with her”.
Now don’t get me wrong, she loves her nephews. In fact, they are one of the main reasons she visits me. But she just seems to be a free spirit. So I say, “whatever floats her boat is fine with me”.
My husband laughs at our lighthearted banter. Whenever she visits it’s the same thing. We always seem to wear out the topic of her singleness. But we all love each other, so life is wonderful. God is good and He will provide.…
Americans love an underdog. At least in theory. In real
life, underdog equals loser. If your legal issues have left you an underdog,
you’re going to find out fast that in a tough economy, underdogs lose out. And
it gets worse. Ex-cons are more likely to end up back in prison if they aren’t
employed. It seems employment of any sort gives those who have served their
time on the inside a chance to stay on the outside. So, what is someone who has
done time supposed to do?
The competition is as fierce as it has
ever been, and everyone is bringing their A-game. The trick for recently
released inmates is not to bring your best game in the wrong league. Most of
you won’t be employable by mainstream standards, not at first. So, look outside
the mainstream. Here are a five potential sources of work that most folks would
pass by, but which might be your ticket to a long life on the outside:
performing arts theaters might seem a bit out of your league, but look
closer. These small-scale theaters (and even the larger ones) hire people
to the unload trucks carrying stage sets and costumes. Look in your local
phone book, or do a Yahoo! search to find the theater near you.
Often, the performer or show will have their own “roadies,” but
find that they need an extra pair of hands for one or two local shows.
This is a perfect way to develop a reputation as a hard worker
carnival always needs help when it comes to town. Most are willing to hire
people with a criminal record as long as they haven’t been convicted of a
sex crime or a violent crime. Call the county clerk and ask for the name
of the company they hire for the county fair and the name of the contact
person. Give them a call and let them know you want to talk to them when
they come to town. Once you have experience in the carnival business,
you’ll be able to land a permanent position.
people, including ex-cons, believe that fast-food restaurants are beneath
them. They don’t want to wear a paper hat and ask everyone in sight if
they would like fries with their order. But before you rush to judgment
about the job, remember how employers rush to judgment about you.
Fast-food restaurants allow you to establish a solid work history, and
most have opportunities for promotion. Granted, the pay isn’t great at
first, but the company is putting a significant amount of resources into
your training, and you get promoted, you learn more and more about
business management. It can be a valuable experience if you decide to give
it a chance.
you’ve been incarcerated for any length of time, you might not have heard
about jobs “Americans won’t do.” Jobs in like this include jobs
on large commercial farms. If you live near one of these facilities and
speak English, you’ll be surprised how easy it is to get hired. Commercial
milk producers and vegetable growers will hire ex-cons who are willing to
work. No experience necessary. You don’t even need to know the difference
between a cow and a stalk of celery. If you’ll do the work they’ll show
you how to do it.
one wants to clean toilets for a living. That’s good news if you’re an
ex-con looking for a job. Someone is always in need of a bathroom
cleaner–event organizers, portable toiled suppliers, truck stops, gas
stations, and every other business that has a pit stop open to the public.
Put in applications with event organizers and sanitation providers, as
well as individual businesses hiring for cleaning, maintenance, or
Don’t fall prey to the darkness of rejection. Even if it seems hopeless, you
can still secure a job and earn an honest living if you are realistic about
your prospects and willing to trade an honest day’s work for an honest, albeit
Our third child a son, whom we named Timothy, was a normal
newborn with a sprinkling of red hair in January of 1992. Things went well with
him until the third month of age when he got quite ill. He was admitted to our
local hospital with respiratory distress. He would spend a week there most of
the time in an oxygen tent.
It’s important to note that prior to
going into the hospital he was on target as far as weigh and development goes.
Being that he was my third child I had none of the worries that I had with my
other two children. Timmy’s pregnancy went better then the first two did. So
the whole experience went smoothly, until he went into the hospital at the end
of his third month of life.
After he got home things started to go
downhill and we were at the hospital more often then not with this tiny little
boy who seemed to be very atypical of my other children or any other child I
Things continued to go from bad to
worse that first 2 years of his life and he spent more time in the peds unit in
our local hospital. There were times we didn’t think he’d live, yes things were
that critical. Ninety Nine percent of the time he was in there for respiratory
distress, and once it was for the flu. He was delayed severely because he
didn’t have the energy to do as he should be doing. He was also very anti-
social but I think that stemmed from having too many people do medical things
to him. Those things had to be done to save his life.
We were dealing with failure to thrive,
as seemed to be too tired to eat, perhaps he just didn’t care. I know people
will say all babies eat when you give them a bottle but Timmy would not eat, no
matter what we tried. His formula was fine and did not give him gas, and
sometimes he’d eat baby food but not most of the time. He screamed when people
would hold him, and it didn’t matter who held him. He was very content to sit
or lay next to you as long as you did not make direct eye contact or touch him.
Sometime during the middle of the third
year of Timmy’s life I got tired of being told by the pediatricians that he was
just slow but would catch up on his own. So I took him out of there and into
family medicine at our local hospital and the first doctor a sports medicine
doctor named Donald Phykitt, we seen was outstanding. He finally listened to me
and a development specialist was contacted. He seen everything I was seeing and
he knew Timmy needed help.
When we met with the development
specialist I was floored to say the least. Some how our pediatric department
missed some serious delays that I as a parent seen. An early intervention team
was brought in to work with Timmy in our home. On their first visit here he was
tested thoroughly and was found to be 22 months delayed on average across the
board. I was floored cried for days; I questioned how God could do this as I am
sure many parents do when they find out devastating news such as this do.
Then I got determined to help Timmy
grow to his potential and be all that he could be. Everyday there was some sort
of therapist at out home and I sat and watch them work with my son and I
learned much. I used what they did and did it when they weren’t there and I did
my share along with my two other children. His physical, occupational and
speech therapists were excellent no doubt and they came once a week, but his
general therapist Chris Little would work with him on everything and was here
often. His speech therapists set a goal for him for 6 months in the future and
Timmy met it in just 2 months. Within six months all the therapists except for
the general therapist were gone, simply because Timmy was excelling with all
When Timmy was almost 5 Attention
Deficit Hyperactive Disorder was added to his diagnosis with a trip to a
neurologist. A friend suggested I take him to see a chiropractor for the fine
motor skills which were not coming …
I am the youngest of four children and
one of only two alive today. I had a protective older brother and two older
sisters. Life with older siblings growing up allowed me to get away with some
things that an only child would not get away with, but it also taught me some
things that guide me even today.
take someone for granted because you never know how long they will be with
is okay to be right but it is also okay to be wrong.
to resolve disagreements quickly and be willing to let them go.
is nothing like a sibling who has your back.
Never forget to cherish your time with
a person and accept them for who they are. Before I started Kindergarten my
brother was responsible for giving me a nickname that has stuck to this day
(Chip). He kept me safe when I rode my tricycle down the side of the main
highway we lived on even though I was not supposed to. He also was there for an
argument over taking my tricycle off the back of dad’s truck. He tried to keep
me from taking it off and when I succeeded my brother made sure dad got me to
the Dr. quickly (dropped it on my little hand and cut it wide open). His fast
action resulted in the Dr. stitching up my hand (I still have the scar). I also
learned that it can be very painful to lose a brother. In 1969 I witnessed him
being hit and killed by a car from the porch of our home.
It is okay to be right but is also okay
to be wrong. My sister Leslie and I argued all the time but no matter who was
right she had my back when it counted. Some arguments were tough to resolve but
most of them were.
Try to resolve disagreements quickly
and be willing to let them go. I held onto a disagreement with my sister Leslie
and did not resolve it in time. Shortly after she graduated, a car accident
took her from my life. Like losing a brother, it is hard to lose a sister.
There is nothing like a sibling who has
your back. Today only my sister Merle remains of my siblings and she like my
brother and sister when I was young has been there through some tough times.
She always has my back and when she needs me I’ll try to be there for her too.
Finally, family is forever! Each of my
siblings has helped to make me who I am today and I am forever changed because
of each one.…
The Oscar awarded “The Departed” has recently
triumphed at the star-sudden award ceremony last month, but not without causing
up set for real victim’s relatives of the real Boston based mobster who
terrorized so many. While the mob drama wowed moviegoers the world victim’s
relatives reflect on the horrific crimes committed against their family members
by the cruel mobster.
The extraordinary tale of the Irish Mobster
and the Police force whose task it was to infiltrate the mob
has Hollywood singing “The Departed” much praise. Director
Martin Scorsese received his first in five previously nominations Oscar Award
for Best Director of the critically acclaimed mob film. This Hollywood
adaptation of real life Irish mob life has proven to be the highest earning
film in the Scorsese filmography to date
It even saw the likes of Mark Wahlberg
receive his own Oscar nomination for a superb depiction of a superior officer
in the Massachusetts Police Force. The actual realty of the film is that there
is a real-life Boston Irish mobster named James “Whitey” Bulger who
grossly tortured his victims. The relatives of his victims are speaking out
about the unpleasant and even horrifying memories “The Departed” film
resonates for them.
Bulger was indicted for 19 murders, but
has evaded prosecution since December 23. 1994. His disappearance was believed
to be in connection with his acting as a government informer along with links
to corrupt federal agents. He is listed with the likes of Osama bin Laden on
the America Most Wanted. A massive manhunt has been undertaken to apprehend the
fugitive who has not surfaced in several decades.
Christopher McIntyre, 47, whose brother
was murdered by Bulger’s gang in 1984, said of the Bulgur characterization in
the film, ” The movie gives this hero worship to this creature.” He
verified that he and other relatives of Bulger’s victims were simply unable to
watch the mob drama because they found it all still “very painful.”
The real life fugitive mobster has scarred the relatives of his victims for
life. The film version of his life has left some of these relatives with a
feeling of exploitation.
“For eight hours, they strapped
him in a chair and cut pieces off him. He begged for a bullet in the
brain,” McIntyre said. Many are still affected by the threat and loose
ends of Bulger’s gang. In 2001, McIntyre’s family filed a
federal lawsuit claiming top-level FBI agents at of the
Boston office knowingly shielded Bulger’s crimes from prosecuting, because they
were informants against the local Italian Mafia. FBI has not responded with a
comment, but did confirm that the Bulger investigation was very much on going.…
It is important to spend time with your children and do
things with them besides the basic parenting tasks we all have to do
like teaching our children basic hygiene, to use their manners, reading and
writing, etc. We also need to do other things like play board games, outdoor
sports, outings to museums, fairs, cooking and crafts to name a few. There is
so much that children can learn from these activities and helps strengthen the
bond between parents and their children as well as gives everyone lasting
memories of these fun learning experiences.
Doing crafts at home with the kids are
great family projects. It helps build children’s artistic skills, boost their
creativity and some craft projects help children become more interested in
science. A fun craft that also dubs as a science project is making homemade
lava lamps. There are a few different formulas you can try depending on what
you have around the house.
You will need:
A glass or plastic bottle with a cap
(soda pop bottles work great, make sure you clean them well)
Alka-Seltzer Tablets or Generic Brand
A glass or plastic bottle with a
A glass or plastic bottle with a
There are other formulas that you can
find by searching the internet that use alcohol or vinegar. I prefer the
cooking oil because there are no harsh odors when working with it.
First fill the empty bottle ¼ full of
water. Next add food coloring, this will change the color of the water to
whatever color you added. (An added fun step here…on the back of most food
coloring boxes there is a chart that shows you how to mix the colors to make
even more colors like purple, orange, lime green, etc. You can take this
opportunity with your kids to learn about mixing colors and have some fun with
Fill the remaining ¾ of the bottle with
vegetable oil, leaving about 1″ empty from the top of the bottle. Now
comes the fun part…break the Alka-Seltzer tablet into about 6 pieces and drop
them into the bottle. If you are not using Alka-Seltzer tablets, drop in about
a heaping teaspoon of salt or baking soda. Sit back and watch the lava lamp
like display! Afterwards, put the cap on the top of the bottle and you can have
fun moving the colored water around the oil or add more tablets later and watch
the lava-works again!…
It was in the height of this recession and something should
have tipped me off in the beginning to what was going to happen. My boss was
behind on his credit card payments, he kept harping on about making ends meet and
then when hiring someone to work on the production line he was hoping to find
someone who didn’t need medical benefits. So don’t ask me why I was shocked
when on that Friday at five p.m. he told me and some other employees that he
had to let us go. When I was hired, my boss was looking for a minimum wage
secretary, but being a seasoned veteran, I negotiated more than that amount. I
offered to take less hours at a reduced rate, but he said he couldn’t afford
that. So right then and there I knew I was going to be unemployed for a while.
I left the office feeling
numb, it hadn’t worked it’s way into my system yet. I left to go pick up my son
and called my mother to tell her what happened. When I spoke those words… it
hit me like a paddle on a fraternity pledge’s rear: I was unemployed.
Right then and there I started to scream in my car on my cell phone until the
police pulled me over. I handed him my registration & license, still
screaming on the phone. He let me go without a ticket (probably out of pity) and
when I got home I began my long, arduous search.
Much to Craigslist’s credit, they have
many employers who list some great jobs… but unfortunately for me, it seemed
for every one authentic job I applied to, there were two spammers. I tried the
Careerbuilder route, but I’m only 24. I can’t tell you how many jobs called me
to thank me for my time and inform me I was their second choice behind some old
dinosaur who has been in the field since before I was born. I fought hard and
despite being qualified, I was passed over dozens of times for either more
experienced or cheaper candidates. I finally gave in and lowered my
I took a lower paying job, with no
benefits and barely over minimum wage. It was supposed to be an office manager position,
but with receptionist pay. I toughed it out and paid my dues in purgatory. I’ve
never appreciated the jobs I had, because they landed in my lap with ease. I
wowed my bosses with my skills and quickly worked my way up in the corporate
world. After this experience, I know I’ll never take a good job for granted
I’ve found a new, better paying job. I
finally can get benefits and respectable pay…. I start work Monday. I finally
get to go back and wear my business casual suits I took for granted and turn my
cell phone back on. I can play a little with my budget instead of whittling
everything down to the last dime. If anything, I am grateful for this
experience but disappointed it had to happen this way. I am grateful I have the
work experience and references I have, and feel lucky. I’m dreading the future,
but can’t wait for Monday…. or the following week for my first paycheck. I
guess the future isn’t that bad but from now on like most of America, I’ll
always have a plan B.…
The crisis of family life – a situation in the family, when no explicit reasons for deteriorating relations between husband and wife, and it seems that there is no understanding and exit. Of course, it’s hard to keep the relationship, if you do not know the person with whom you live, if all annoying, and always want to change something.
Crises of family life can be divided approximately 1,3,7,15,25,40 years of married life. But in every family there is no specific scenario of life, and focus on the number makes no sense. Therefore, try to determine the crises by events.
1 year of marriage
“Who are you? I do not know you! “- The main phrase of this crisis, which begins after the wedding or after the decision to live together.
Reasons. It’s no secret that before the wedding and after, people are a little change, relax and start being themselves.
How to cope? Sit down and think hard whether you accept the flaws of your partner? and pay attention to his dignity.
3 years of marriage
“Firstborn” – the crisis is connected with the first birth of a child in the family and called the crisis of the third year.
Reasons. Having a baby is related to emotional and physical stress for both. Wife unhappy that her husband does not help, and her husband, in turn, angry from lack of attention to his person. If between a pair of no sexual relations, resentment starts to grow into a riot.
How to cope? You should pay more attention to each other. Do not forget that you love each other, do not put all your love for a child. There are grandmothers, aunts, godmothers – give them an opportunity to pay attention to your kid. At this time, go to the movies, cafes or simply walk down the street.
7 years of marriage
“Routine” – crisis seven years relationship.
Reasons. Tired of all! Life, children, work – all in a circle. No emotional outbursts.
How to cope? You need to go on a vacation, take a trip to another country – a change of scenery. You can go to the dance as a couple or in the gym, go ice skating or rollerblading, in general, to do something that you have not already done long ago.
15 years of marriage
“Midlife Crisis” – usually occurs in those who are “about forty” – that’s about 15 years of living together.
Reasons. Comes time revaluation of values. Begin torturing questions: “Are all right in my life?” And it seems that time is running relentlessly fast and suddenly need to change something, and another chance will be gone.
How to cope? Do not be afraid to tell her husband that you appreciate it and much love. Pay attention to him, giving nice gifts and not ties for all holidays.
25 years of marriage
“Empty nest syndrome” – a crisis of parents when children leave the family. Approximately 25 years of marriage.
Reasons. Children grew up, they now have their own families. And you suddenly realize that life has lost its meaning and it seems your family except for children has long been nothing in common.
How to cope? Find a new meaning – save up for a house, buy a cottage. You have lived together for so many years, you have so much in common. Remember your dreams together and start to implement them.
40 years of marriage
Retirement – a crisis of loneliness on the forties family life.
Reasons. Retirement is waiting impatiently, and when he finally comes this long-awaited moment, the man begins to panic, not feeling fit, he does not know what to do.
How to cope? You need to find some useful hobby. Do what you want. …