It was in the height of this recession and something should
have tipped me off in the beginning to what was going to happen. My boss was
behind on his credit card payments, he kept harping on about making ends meet and
then when hiring someone to work on the production line he was hoping to find
someone who didn’t need medical benefits. So don’t ask me why I was shocked
when on that Friday at five p.m. he told me and some other employees that he
had to let us go. When I was hired, my boss was looking for a minimum wage
secretary, but being a seasoned veteran, I negotiated more than that amount. I
offered to take less hours at a reduced rate, but he said he couldn’t afford
that. So right then and there I knew I was going to be unemployed for a while.
I left the office feeling
numb, it hadn’t worked it’s way into my system yet. I left to go pick up my son
and called my mother to tell her what happened. When I spoke those words… it
hit me like a paddle on a fraternity pledge’s rear: I was unemployed.
Right then and there I started to scream in my car on my cell phone until the
police pulled me over. I handed him my registration & license, still
screaming on the phone. He let me go without a ticket (probably out of pity) and
when I got home I began my long, arduous search.
Much to Craigslist’s credit, they have
many employers who list some great jobs… but unfortunately for me, it seemed
for every one authentic job I applied to, there were two spammers. I tried the
Careerbuilder route, but I’m only 24. I can’t tell you how many jobs called me
to thank me for my time and inform me I was their second choice behind some old
dinosaur who has been in the field since before I was born. I fought hard and
despite being qualified, I was passed over dozens of times for either more
experienced or cheaper candidates. I finally gave in and lowered my
I took a lower paying job, with no
benefits and barely over minimum wage. It was supposed to be an office manager position,
but with receptionist pay. I toughed it out and paid my dues in purgatory. I’ve
never appreciated the jobs I had, because they landed in my lap with ease. I
wowed my bosses with my skills and quickly worked my way up in the corporate
world. After this experience, I know I’ll never take a good job for granted
I’ve found a new, better paying job. I
finally can get benefits and respectable pay…. I start work Monday. I finally
get to go back and wear my business casual suits I took for granted and turn my
cell phone back on. I can play a little with my budget instead of whittling
everything down to the last dime. If anything, I am grateful for this
experience but disappointed it had to happen this way. I am grateful I have the
work experience and references I have, and feel lucky. I’m dreading the future,
but can’t wait for Monday…. or the following week for my first paycheck. I
guess the future isn’t that bad but from now on like most of America, I’ll
always have a plan B.…
The crisis of family life – a situation in the family, when no explicit reasons for deteriorating relations between husband and wife, and it seems that there is no understanding and exit. Of course, it’s hard to keep the relationship, if you do not know the person with whom you live, if all annoying, and always want to change something.
Crises of family life can be divided approximately 1,3,7,15,25,40 years of married life. But in every family there is no specific scenario of life, and focus on the number makes no sense. Therefore, try to determine the crises by events.
1 year of marriage
“Who are you? I do not know you! “- The main phrase of this crisis, which begins after the wedding or after the decision to live together.
Reasons. It’s no secret that before the wedding and after, people are a little change, relax and start being themselves.
How to cope? Sit down and think hard whether you accept the flaws of your partner? and pay attention to his dignity.
3 years of marriage
“Firstborn” – the crisis is connected with the first birth of a child in the family and called the crisis of the third year.
Reasons. Having a baby is related to emotional and physical stress for both. Wife unhappy that her husband does not help, and her husband, in turn, angry from lack of attention to his person. If between a pair of no sexual relations, resentment starts to grow into a riot.
How to cope? You should pay more attention to each other. Do not forget that you love each other, do not put all your love for a child. There are grandmothers, aunts, godmothers – give them an opportunity to pay attention to your kid. At this time, go to the movies, cafes or simply walk down the street.
7 years of marriage
“Routine” – crisis seven years relationship.
Reasons. Tired of all! Life, children, work – all in a circle. No emotional outbursts.
How to cope? You need to go on a vacation, take a trip to another country – a change of scenery. You can go to the dance as a couple or in the gym, go ice skating or rollerblading, in general, to do something that you have not already done long ago.
15 years of marriage
“Midlife Crisis” – usually occurs in those who are “about forty” – that’s about 15 years of living together.
Reasons. Comes time revaluation of values. Begin torturing questions: “Are all right in my life?” And it seems that time is running relentlessly fast and suddenly need to change something, and another chance will be gone.
How to cope? Do not be afraid to tell her husband that you appreciate it and much love. Pay attention to him, giving nice gifts and not ties for all holidays.
25 years of marriage
“Empty nest syndrome” – a crisis of parents when children leave the family. Approximately 25 years of marriage.
Reasons. Children grew up, they now have their own families. And you suddenly realize that life has lost its meaning and it seems your family except for children has long been nothing in common.
How to cope? Find a new meaning – save up for a house, buy a cottage. You have lived together for so many years, you have so much in common. Remember your dreams together and start to implement them.
40 years of marriage
Retirement – a crisis of loneliness on the forties family life.
Reasons. Retirement is waiting impatiently, and when he finally comes this long-awaited moment, the man begins to panic, not feeling fit, he does not know what to do.
How to cope? You need to find some useful hobby. Do what you want. …
I want to start by saying that I loved my kids’ daycare here in Effingham, IL. Tree House Too was fantastic for my first two children, Megan and James.
It was April 2008 that my wife and I reached a crossroads. Our third child, Maggie was born. All three of my kids were under the age of five. Megan wouldn’t turn five until 2009 and my son was only 15 months older than my newest baby. At the time, I was doing work as a substitute teacher in the county we live in, but the work was inconsistent, as it always is. The decision we had after her six weeks of maternity leave was this: Do I continue to sub or do I stay at home with the children? Here are the reasons why the decision wasn’t hard.
Daycare prices were on the rise
For us, it was approximately $25 per kid/per day to go to the daycare service we loved. In the summer, I wasn’t working, so there was no extra money to pay for daycare. So with the summer of 2008, we considered it the trial run to see how I could handle a baby and two toddlers at home. After almost three months, I was doing well.
Substitute pay didn’t cover the daycare costs either
While my sub pay per day was a little more than the cost for one day of daycare for my three kids, it didn’t cover days I wasn’t teaching, and unless we made the kids go full-time, the cost was even more. Most jobs in America don’t cover the costs. It would take a person making over $10 per hour just to break even with three kids.
Being a teacher made me the best teacher for my kids
This probably ended up being the deciding factor. My children were getting great bits at the daycare, but that’s educationally what they were. The laws have changed in the past six years and daycares are required to more now to prepare kids for school. Most of this has happened since the pre-school system has been all but wiped out here in Illinois. What I could give my kids was more one-on-one with the basics to have them better prepared for school.
We ended up doing this for four school years. As Megan went off to kindergarten and first grade, we had one more child, our baby Jenna. After the fourth year of having me without a paycheck as a substitute teacher, we received a blessing in the summer of 2012. My mother came to live with us as she recovered from a second heart attack and later breast cancer. So as the 2012-13 school year came, I was able to begin going back to the teaching field and subbing on a somewhat regular basis. My mom stayed home with the baby as my other three kids are now all in grade school.…
Friends turn on you and betray you.
They have their own agenda and you are just a tool to them.
Family however, is forever
Friends move away and never call or write.
Family is always there
Friends steal your girl or your job or your games
Family always have your back
Remember your family and put them first
They do the same for you…
My step mother concocted an awesome White Bean Soup recipe a
few weeks back, and passed it onto me. I tried making the vegetarian form last
weekend (albeit slightly altered – see my editorial notes in italics)
and not only was it as simple and delicious, it sustained me all week long.
Highly recommended – let me know if you try it.
“Really Yummy White Bean
48 oz. Chicken or veggie stock (Note:I
used vegetarian “Better than Boulion” – my broth base of choice)
1- 14 oz. Can diced tomatoes, drained
4 -14 oz. Cans cannellini beans (aka
white kidney beans)
1 Medium yellow onion, diced
1 Bulb garlic, roasted (Note: I
roasted 2 bulbs and saved some to make garlic bread – extra flavor to account
for the lack of meat)
2 Medium carrots, diced
½ head of curly kale roughly chopped,
de-stemmed (Note: I used a full head for extra substance)
OPTIONAL: 1 pinch red pepper flakes (Note:
mom says optional; I say crucial)
OPTIONAL: Turkey sausage
Roast garlic by cutting off top,
drizzling with olive oil, wrapping in foil and cooking in 350° oven for 30 to
40 min (until soft). If using sausage, remove casings and brown, breaking into
pieces over medium heat. Remove sausage from pan and set aside; pour off
In a large kettle, heat 1 T of olive
oil. Add half of diced onion; cook 3 – 4 mins until slightly soft. Add stock;
add ½ of the roasted garlic (squeeze softened cloves into kettle), reserving
the rest for toast. Add 2 cans of beans.
Over medium heat, cook above
ingredients for 5 – 10 mins. Place pot in sink and blend together with hand
blender until smooth (if you don’t have a hand blender, a regular one will do).
Return mixture to heat. Add: carrots,
remaining onion, kale, tomatoes and pepper flakes. Simmer 10 – 15 mins until
carrots are firm and tender. Add remaining 2 cans of beans and optional
sausage; simmer 1 – 2 mins. Season with salt & pepper to taste.
Highly recommended accompanyment: use
the remaining roasted garlic to make some cheesy garlic bread, and then dip
I am the mother of four children. Many people have asked us
why we decided to have such a large family. It appears that a family of six is
considered large these days. When my grandparents were children they were all
members of families with at least ten children a piece. Now that’s a large
family! But these days four children feels like a lot. Why do we have four
children? We’ve been asked if having a large family is a religious thing. My
husband is a minister, but no, it was not a religious thing. We had four
children because we did not want to have five. My ten year old son once asked
me if his dad and I knew we were going to have this large family. I told him,
yes, we did. I believe it is time for “the talk”.
I have also had many people ask,
“How do you do it? I t must be crazy at your house with so many
kids.” Well, yes it certainly can be crazy at times, but there are ways
that my husband and I have found to help make it a bit less crazy having a
large family. Fortunately, we did not have them all at once. Truly the poor
parents who have the entire litter at once, through the miracle of fertility
treatment, are the ones who suffer. We had ours spread out over seven years so
the growth of our family was more gradual. We truly didn’t see much change when
we went from one child to two children. He had one and I had one. The big jump
came when baby number three arrived on the scene. Now we were out numbered. I
had one, he had one, and then there was still one left over. We bought a big
stroller. That helped.
Then the big decision to have the
fourth child truly changed everything. We knew pretty soon we would both have
to be on top of our game, and stay there, or there would be mutiny in this
large family! We were outnumbered two to one. So how do we manage? Well, early
on we knew that daycare and after school care was not an option for us. We
wanted to raise our children without that outside help, and to pay for daycare
for four children would be just too much money. We have had to be creative from
time to time, but we have never wavered from that plan. I am in a profession
that allows nighttime work so for the last nine years I have worked two nights
a week to help bring in money to meet our budget. It’s not ideal, but at least
our children are cared for at home by their parents. I know this is not
possible for everyone, so I do feel blessed that we have been able to
accomplish this. We live several hours away from grandparents, and have not
been able to call on them for help with child care. That is a great option if
you live close and they are willing to help out.
It is a huge task to clothe such a
large family. We have had a few friends over the years that have passed down
clothes for the boys to wear. That has been so wonderful. I have also been a
diligent sales shopper. I wait until the absolute final markdowns for the
season to buy clothes, and then pack them away until next year. I have found
shoes are the hardest thing to save money on, but I do my best to try and find
them on sale. I have asked the kids to try not to outgrow their shoes all at
the same time. I’m kidding, of course, but it does seem to work out that way
more often than not!
Feeding a large family can be
challenging as well. I have tried many different strategies over the years. I
have clipped coupons. I have gone to the warehouse clubs and bought in bulk.
Lately, I just skip the fancy stores and drive to the plain and simple store a
few more miles away. I try to buy everything for the week in that one trip. I
find that you spend more money unnecessarily if you go every day or even a few
times a week. I also try to have a list prepared so I know exactly what I need
to buy. Taking the kids along …
A homeschooling parent should take
inventory of the talents in other family members around him or her. For
example, I have a friend whose Grandfather was a journalist. This Grandfather
drove thirty miles each way once per week to give his homeschooled
grandchildren a lesson in writing. This gave the mother a break for two hours
The children also benefit from shared
family talent. If mom is not a good writer, but Granddad is, then the kids
benefit by learning from someone who can give them real writing expertise.
Chances are, their writing ability will be higher than it would have been
before Granddad started helping out.
How to take a family inventory:
Write a list of all of your family and
friends. Next to each name, write their strengths. To list their strengths
think about what degree(s) they hold, or what they studied in college. List
their natural talents as well, such as art or music.
Contact each family member and ask them
if they would like to participate in your homeschooling endeavor. They don’t
have to commit to giving lessons every day or even once per week. They could
simply come the first Monday of every month or the last Tuesday of the month,
whatever works with their schedules. Once per week may be ideal for the main
subjects, but it is not necessary if you want them to come to do a craft with
My father has published numerous
science fair project books so whenever my daughter has a science fair project
to do, I take her to his house. The difficulties I would have had in teaching
that particular project, he made easy. My daughter was able to understand the
concepts and she had a lot of fun working with her Grandfather. This may only
happen once or twice per month, but it is still a big help.
Include anyone in the family, if they
are willing to help. You can always put them in charge of taking the kids on a
nature walk or practicing soccer moves in the back yard.…
Kids want to save the planet, and kids want to help the
family. So, why not teach your kids ways they can go green at
home? Here are five things kids can do at home to help the environment and to
help lower family expenses.
Go Green by Turning on Cold Water. Explain
to your kids how using cold water–instead of hot–saves your family money. In
addition, teach your kids how to brush their teeth with minimal water usage by
turning off the water stream while brushing. This conserves water and impacts
both the environment and your water bill.
Go Green by Turning Off Lights. Getting
your kids to turn off lights when they leave a room is an important
first step, but it’s not the only way to go green with lighting. Kids can help
open drapes or blinds to take advantage of free natural light during the
daylight hours. Use of natural light saves electricity and saves on your
Go Green with Compact Florescent Light
Bulbs. Explain to your kids how certain
light bulbs use more electricity to operate. Let your kids help swap
incandescent light bulbs for compact florescent ones in your home, starting
with their bedrooms. The initial cost of changing light bulbs in your home may
pinch a bit, but you will save energy and cut utility costs over time.
Go Green by Replacing Paper with Cloth. Instead
of using disposable paper towels and paper napkins in the kitchen, choose
cloth. Explain to your kids how these items are easy to wash along with family
laundry. Have a handy place in your kitchen to store cloth towels and napkins,
and allow kids to help wash, dry, fold, and put away the cloth napkins and
Go Green by Sorting Family Trash. Kids
can help sort family and personal trash by separating out recyclables. Provide
containers for glass, aluminum, cans, bottles, cardboard, and newspaper. Teach
your kids how to determine what can be recycled and what cannot. A great
motivation for recycling is to allow your kids to enjoy the money
earned from recycling.
As your kids make these five simple
changes at home, you will see a positive impact on your family budget, and your
kids will be doing their part to go green.…