Crises of Family Life by Years

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The crisis of family life – a situation in the family, when no explicit reasons for deteriorating relations between husband and wife, and it seems that there is no understanding and exit. Of course, it’s hard to keep the relationship, if you do not know the person with whom you live, if all annoying, and always want to change something.

Crises of family life can be divided approximately 1,3,7,15,25,40 years of married life. But in every family there is no specific scenario of life, and focus on the number makes no sense. Therefore, try to determine the crises by events.

1 year of marriage

“Who are you? I do not know you! “- The main phrase of this crisis, which begins after the wedding or after the decision to live together.

Reasons. It’s no secret that before the wedding and after, people are a little change, relax and start being themselves.

How to cope? Sit down and think hard whether you accept the flaws of your partner? and pay attention to his dignity.

3 years of marriage

“Firstborn” – the crisis is connected with the first birth of a child in the family and called the crisis of the third year.

Reasons. Having a baby is related to emotional and physical stress for both. Wife unhappy that her husband does not help, and her husband, in turn, angry from lack of attention to his person. If between a pair of no sexual relations, resentment starts to grow into a riot.

How to cope? You should pay more attention to each other. Do not forget that you love each other, do not put all your love for a child. There are grandmothers, aunts, godmothers – give them an opportunity to pay attention to your kid. At this time, go to the movies, cafes or simply walk down the street.

7 years of marriage

“Routine” – crisis seven years relationship.

Reasons. Tired of all! Life, children, work – all in a circle. No emotional outbursts.

How to cope? You need to go on a vacation, take a trip to another country – a change of scenery. You can go to the dance as a couple or in the gym, go ice skating or rollerblading, in general, to do something that you have not already done long ago.

15 years of marriage

“Midlife Crisis” – usually occurs in those who are “about forty” – that’s about 15 years of living together.

Reasons. Comes time revaluation of values. Begin torturing questions: “Are all right in my life?” And it seems that time is running relentlessly fast and suddenly need to change something, and another chance will be gone.

How to cope? Do not be afraid to tell her husband that you appreciate it and much love. Pay attention to him, giving nice gifts and not ties for all holidays.

25 years of marriage

“Empty nest syndrome” – a crisis of parents when children leave the family. Approximately 25 years of marriage.

Reasons. Children grew up, they now have their own families. And you suddenly realize that life has lost its meaning and it seems your family except for children has long been nothing in common.

How to cope? Find a new meaning – save up for a house, buy a cottage. You have lived together for so many years, you have so much in common. Remember your dreams together and start to implement them.

40 years of marriage

Retirement – a crisis of loneliness on the forties family life.

Reasons. Retirement is waiting impatiently, and when he finally comes this long-awaited moment, the man begins to panic, not feeling fit, he does not know what to do.

How to cope? You need to find some useful hobby. Do what you want.