When is it too Late in Life for Kids?

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Photo by Kalamazoo Public Library

When should we decide to stop having kids? I believe that is one of the age old questions. Some people think you should have them young then quit. So later you can enjoy your life living it for yourself only. Others believe you should have as many as you are blessed with. There is a lot between there and don’t worry I know that but to name them all I think my computer would crash. There are so many babies having babies now or just the opposite grandmas having babies. Is there a medium?

In my own life I decided to quit early. I had a tubal ligation when I was only 21 years old. Don’t think that was an easy task though. I had to go to many different doctors and in four different cities just to find a doctor to perform it. They even went as far as giving me a month to think about it then another two weeks before the surgery itself were the doctor told me if I wanted out that was the time. But I didn’t I was sure then as I am now that I was finished having children. I had two great kids a boy and girl and that was good enough for me.

Sometimes things in our lives push us to do these things as it did in mine. My mother and a single mother at that passed away when I was only eleven years old. This was hard to understand at eleven. It wasn’t for another year till it finally sank into my head that she was not coming back. It was something I fought with my whole live mainly because I was the only one with her when she died. She was only 51 years old when she passed from a heart attach. In my view at almost 40 when she had me it was too late in her life. From the time that I started my own family I knew I wouldn’t want my kids to live that pain. Maybe it’s not rational because we all know when it is our time it is our time but sometimes you just can help how you feel.

Now on the other hand my niece that is the same age as me 30 years old has four children. From the time that she was old enough to really get the concept of babies she has always wanted six. Yet after having her fourth child her doctor informed her that if she had another baby there would be a very large percentage that it would kill her. This problem worried her because non surgical birth control did not work with her. That is when she decided to get a tubal ligation. Even now since the operation she regrets and wishes for more and says she still might reverse it and give it one more try despite the consequence.

These are only two examples I know people who have six and eight children. There children have children at the same time they were or are pregnant. They have told me that they will never take birth control and if they happen to have ten or twelve children then it was Gods gift to them. Is it safe or healthy to do this to your body? Is it a religious thing? Is it personal? I believe these choices vary from person to person or even family to family. Now that you have some more information on this I can ask you one more time. When should we decide to stop having children?